This post is about how to make sure you don’t let your [mistakes] life experiences hold you back from becoming the best version of you.
Everything happens for a reason, at a particular point in time in our lives, to teach us something valuable.
Yeah I know what you are thinking… in most instances, it may not initially seem it at the time…
I completely agree but …Hold up!
When we give it some time and then wind back the clock…. hindsight is beautiful thing, isn’t it?
How many of you have lost touch with a friend or broken up with a partner and in the moment, it felt like everything was crushing down on you? It may have felt like you were just unsure of how to possibly function without them? What was life without them?
Or, it maybe that we dwell on our work life or studies. We take one bad mark or feedback comment and think it’s an indicator of our overall performance? We aren’t good at this particular subject? This role maybe just isn’t for me?
Extreme, I know!
We were actually that dramatic!? We should have got an Oscar! I know right!?
Anyway, we were so affected by that experience, in that moment. It was the biggest event of all time…for us anyway?!
Yet, fast forward a period of time [time length varies depending on the individual] you realise it was the best thing to have happened and you are able to clearly identify reasons as to why it may have taken the route it did.
For instance, if it is to do with a break-up, you may have come to the realisation that you are two very different people who were trying to make the impossible possible? Timings may have not been ideal for you both? Priorities/Values may have not been aligned?
If it was a friend, you may have realised that you were actually naturally drifting apart and there are now new pals that are more suited to you?
Whatever it was, you now realise that it happened at that moment in time, for a reason… to place you where you are now.
You are where you are meant to be right now.
Whether you are in tough place right now, or not, just remember, it is there to help you learn things about you that you can take forward on your journey.
It may not seem it right now, but to fixate on the negative aspect of the situation will only make you feel worse about it.
Why use all that valuable energy you have to dwell on it?
Whilst we live through these tough experiences, it is important to know they are always temporary.
Everything is temporary!
You will never be in the exact same position, same moment, in the same timeframe ever again!
What a refreshing thought?
So, embrace what you can of every moment.
It is best to always take the lessons from that experience, but let go of the bitterness.
How you ask?
Well… it’s important to try to forget the way you felt at that moment in time.
Try and remove the emotion from the experience completely, for it does not add anything fruitful to your life right now other than bad energy…and you just aren’t about that life.
So, what’s the key takeaway here?
Take the lesson from the life experience, but leave the emotion behind!
Let it go, let it gooooo... (as Elsa from Frozen would say).. Sorry, I just couldn’t help myself!
I’m only human jheez!?
I’ve seen so many of my nearest and dearest struggle to follow this lesson, and it only holds them back from experiencing the amazing futures that lie ahead of them.
A lot of them feel that because a particular negative experience happened previously, it’ll happen again and therefore actively avoid these situations, which could now be the best thing for them.
Why would you do that to yourself?
It is essentially living in fear. Fear of the same thing happening again.
You are stronger than that.
You are braver than that.
You now have life experience (and toolkit) behind you now, so it highly unlikely to take the same turn.
And, if it does, you for sure know how to handle yourself and get over it? Am I right?
What happened in the past, happened at that moment in time, for a reason…
to teach you
to educate you &
to help you learn more about yourself!
It’s all serves one common purpose…to make you the better version of you.
So, before you let your past control your future…just note that you are only holding yourself back! I for sure will not!
The past is not there to make you bitter, but better!
Ria xo
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