Be your own cheerleader?
What does that even mean?
Isn’t that contradictory with the real life cheerleaders we are all familiar with?
I can sense the confusion you feel when you read this but please read on before you make up your mind!
What do I mean by this?
Well…throughout our lives there are always going to be many ‘constants‘ and ‘variables’.
However, when thinking realistically, and as glum as it may sound, there is a landslide victory to the ratio of ‘variables‘ in our life, compared to the ‘constants‘.
The ‘variables‘ in our life we are unable to control, or hold in our favour… and more importantly, we are unable to rely on them being in our lives throughout the course of time.
For instance, how many ‘best friends’ can you think of that you considered to be friends with for life and now just see the odd post on social media from them? (BFFLs) How many partners have you had, where you thought that was the ‘one’ person you would be with forever, but it is now just a long-lost memory?
Perhaps a fond memory or a lesson learnt, but still someone who is no longer a fulfilling contributor to your life.
You get the point.
These people will not be around forever. You do not know who will be and who won’t be!
That’s a scary thought right?
It needn’t be.
It gives you a chance to make space for the new people, who will take you on a new journey, the one you are meant to be on…
However, ‘constants‘ on the other hand – these are wholly in our power.
The most secure ‘constant’ in your life being…your bf? your gf? your wife? your husband? your parents? your best friends? your pet? YOU!
You are always going to be in your life.
You will experience all the ups and downs that life has to bring.
You will spend much of your time with yourself, and amongst others.
You will always be with yourself on whatever journey you decide to take.
Therefore, it is ever so important to be able to be comfortable with oneself and be able to celebrate yourself proudly, before you expect it from others!
If you can’t do it for yourself, why should you expect others to be able to?
We should be ‘our number 1‘ cheerleader.
We should hold the ability to truly reel in our own successes and the journey we have completed so far!
By being able to do so, you give yourself the utmost power to not look so much for external validation for ones successes, but instead being content with oneself and celebrating internally.
We are amazing.
We know it.
We don’t need others to shout about our greatness!
Front row seat to a show of me? Erm… Yes please?
Ria xo
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